The Death Talk – A Guide

We all dread death.

My husband recently said something to me. On a normal day I wouldn’t know how to react but after the year we have had as a family I totally understand why he said it. He said tell your family where you want to be buried while you are alive so everyone is on the same page if anything happens.

Firstly, we need to be more open about these things in our communities. We treat death as if it is Voldemolt (He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named). This is the primary reason families fight and can not come to a consensus after a death. So i decided to write a quick guide to debriefing your family on your posthumous wishes.

1. If you ask me, this mystery we associate with death is the exact reasons why Wills & Testaments are disputed in high numbers, no one wants to accept that you wrote a will to begin with so make sure everyone knows there is one and where (lawyer in charge or executor) it is before you go.

2. Let someone know what to claim where if there is. This one is in case of life and/or funeral policies, provident funds and other compensations. In most cases this safeguards the future of your offspring and needs to be acted on quickly.

3. Next, let it be know where your desired resting place is! Do you wanna be buried, cremated (taboo as it maybe in some societies) and in the case of the diaspora – shipped back home?

Let’s be the change we want to see. It starts with us!

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